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Giving more to my spouse

Currently I am working through several books, self-help, higher consciousness, type books. One is by Steve Pavlina "Personal Development for Smart People" and another Don Miguel Ruiz "The Four Agreements". My goal was to read three books a month that will challenge me to make changes. Of course I still have my other spiritual studies that I am to complete. I am doing okay on this challenge.
Recently my lovely spouse has decided to be really challenging too my development and has produced a list of "expectations" she has for a spouse. To say the least, she has been frustrated with me lately. Understandably so.
So in return I will be making a list of intentions for her. I am working through the list and making sure that each thing is inspiring, practical, purposeful and yet just challenging enough to not provoking to her free agency, goals and desires.
Before I get into finalizing that list I am going to make some of my intentions known to the world, my spirit-soul team, and finally to myself. These are things I am going to work on aside from any list of expectations she might have. Giving More is the first thing I will work on.

Things I will improve when Giving More to my spouse:

Kiss more. Not just a quick kiss and run. No excuses about lipstick rubbing off either, she has tons of lipstick. Look her in the eyes and then kiss.

Touch. Foot massages, holding hands, hugs.

Ask. Ask questions about what she cares about and pay attention to the answer.

Listen. Let go and let them. Shift from I am right to receiving and knowing the essence of my spouse. Quit fretting about the result, trust and appreciate that her intentions come from love.

Compliment. Let her know she inspires me and she makes me smile.

Be positive and present. Bring positive emotions to my spouse. What happened in the past should stay there. Show appreciation to her for what is happening right this moment.

Good start? My hope is that it is. Some of the things are fun, some are so very challenging to a person who is so hard on himself which just translates into judgement on everything and everyone. It is difficult to become so transparent to myself and to others. I just know I need to be able to stop my own consumerism and work on giving while on empty.
So I have started small, dropped my demands, created a list that still gives but gives back to me. Of course, I crash. The list is not setup for failure. I will get through it and have a happier spouse too.
Anyone got anything as good?
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Evita said…
This is AMAZING!! Just AMAZING....can you imagine if all the couples out there did just that what is on your list.

Never mind, if they just did a few items that are on your list, we would have a whole other world where divorce stats and relationship happiness stands.

I am so proud of you for moving to action. Both you and your spouse will benefit greatly and this has nothing to do with who wins, who gives more.

Simple be the cause of your own experience!

:) I am smiling all over from reading this!
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